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10 Simple Patterns of the Most Insanely Successful People

Here are some proven patterns for achieving your goals, gathered through numerous in-person interviews of successful people from all walks of life.

Success takes many forms. You can have monetary success, political success, in the form of power, or even cultural success, in the form of fame.

I spent a good part of last year interviewing the most successful people I know. These were ordinary people who’ve achieved extraordinary success. I eventually turned those interviews into a book.

What I discovered is that these people are just like you. They work at their craft. They push to radically improve themselves and their lives.

What’s intriguing to me is that, after speaking with 24 people (my late father included), I began to see patterns. Systems in which these people were able to cultivate rich and fulfilling work and home lives.

Here are 10 simple patterns of those successful people:

1. Create Your Own Reality: Oren Klaff

Oren has closed over $1 billion in funding for his clients. He’s also the author of the best-selling Pitch Anything. Oren is a master at sales pitching. When I spoke with him, he made it clear that pitching is a game.

He also made it clear that you can create your own reality in any meeting. Insure you never lead a pitch with details. Start by stimulating the reptilian fight-or-flight part of their brain.

A fresh, new approach, with powerful results. The book is worth reading.

2. Embrace Change: Jeffrey Hayzlett

Jeffrey is the former CMO of Eastman Kodak. When Jeffrey realized that his company wasn’t nimble enough to evolve, he reinvented himself.

Now he’s a New York Times best-selling author, keynote speaker, and media juggernaut. He could have scampered off into the dark corners of the business world. Instead, he pivoted and won.

If you find yourself in a bad situation, know that you can find alternatives.

3. Work Harder: Rosanna Scotto

Rosanna Scotto has been in media broadcasting for years.  I confess that the first time I met her on the couch of Good Day New York, I was struck by her beauty.

So I asked her how this has impacted her career. She shared, “You better back up that beauty with hard work.”

Nothing is more potent when seeking recognition as hard work.

4. Don’t Worry About the “How”: Chris Guererro

Chris is the owner of my CrossFit gym. I’ve been an avid CrossFit addict for about a year and a half now. When I interviewed Chris, he made it very clear that his gym was a pure passion play.

Chris shared, “To be honest, I don’t have a road map. I’m just letting what happens happen. I’ve never been motivated by money, expansion, or anything else. I’m motivated by enjoying what I do and sharing my passion for fitness with others.”

Define your goals. Reach, and reverse engineer to success.

5. Never Complain: Adrian Dessi

My father battled ALS (Lou Gehrig’s Disease) for close to six years. Toward the end, he lost all movement in his lower extremities.

He remained lucid until the end. Yet he never, ever complained.  Not only is complaining bad for you, according to science, but it’s also bad for everyone around you.

Everyone has his or her “bag of rocks.” Focus on the good, and good things will surround you.

6. Serve Others: Chris Maloney

Chris Maloney was an intern at my agency, Silverback Social. He’s also a military veteran and entrepreneur.  His company is a nonprofit that is changing lives.

When I asked him how he fills his time, Chris replied, “Right now, I’m focusing on my last two MBA classes, the reserves, and mostly CauseEngine, a company I co-founded that connects talented freelancers to nonprofits to drive operations and social impact.”

Shifting your attention outward will shift your view of the world.

7. Be Yourself: Russ Adler

Russ Adler is an attorney. He’s very successful, but this guy is also r-e-a-l-l-y different. He’s been known to wear red shoes, drive an orange Mini Cooper, and jam on his guitar while riffing about law.  I love the way Russ approaches his life.  As a result of Russ’s true-to-self persona, his business thrives.

He doesn’t pretend to be a double-breasted-suit-wearing attorney. Instead, Russ trades in his membership at the country club for CrossFit competitions on the weekends.

Embrace your quirk, and succeed!

8. Respect Everyone: Chris Hansen

Chris Hansen has had a storied career in media. What I found most intriguing about Chris when I spoke with him is that he joked that he was too dumb to ever realize there was nothing he couldn’t do. As a result, he set no limitations on himself.

He also built his career on listening. He said, “I have always listened to people…whether it’s a train conductor, a cop, or a CEO, everyone has a story.”

Get over social hierarchies and open your mind to everyone in your path.

9. Cultivate Your Creative Side: John Dokes

John is global chief marketing officer at AccuWeather Inc. and GM AccuWeather Network, but he’s also an accomplished jazz musician.

Speaking about his music career, John shared, “When I first started to explore my extracurricular passion of performing and recording as a jazz vocalist, I thought it would be best to keep it under wraps. As my confidence grew as an artist, I started to invite more friends and colleagues to the gigs, and when I invited potential clients, my deal close rate started to rise.”

Embrace your creativity and allow it to enhance, not hinder, your business life.

10. Define What True Success Means to You: Jeff Pearlman

Jeff is the author of two New York Times bestsellers. He also happens to be from my hometown of Mahopac, New York. When I spoke with him about success, he almost became squeamish.

When asked what success meant for him, he replied, “For me, at 43, success means that tomorrow I’ll drop my son off at school, then return 20 minutes later to help the class with Friday morning spelling. It means rarely (almost never) missing a Little League game, a concert, a water polo meet, a play. It means knowing all my kids’ friends, making lunches in the morning, putting them to bed at night.”

Realign your priorities to support what true success really means for you.

By Chris Dessi

CEO, Silverback Social

Blast My Quotes: Week 4

Antonio Westley

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ReBlogging – What’s That All About?

Dan Alatorre

There's even MORE shit I have to do? There’s even MORE shit I have to do?

While you are building (or expanding) your platform, it’s a great time to polish, edit and add or delete whatever you want added to or deleted from your book. Plus, a lot of the time we have to make choices about what the blurb will say and what the cover needs to look like. Bouncing that stuff off a bunch of Facebook author page friends or Twitter followers or Blog subscribers is a great way to see what the feedback is – and spend no money to find out.

Part of the way you increase your base is by adding people as followers on Twitter, Facebook, and your blog, or whatever other social media you like doing. Most of you have blogs, so let’s focus there.

That's how it feels, yeah. That’s how it feels, yeah.

Look what happened when I posted and tweeted about my…

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6th Grade Camp and the Worthless Advice Blogger Colide!

Kevin Hellriegel's Blog of Worthless Advice

Let’s Whip Out Some Blog Posts!

Sorry my dear readers…but I write my blog for fun…it’s not a job. I just check in to see that I have really slacked off in the blog posting schedule. I have no excuse other than the fact that I am lazy. Sure, I could say I have been busy (and I am honestly busy) but if I say I’m lazy, people understand.

My daughter finished up her elementary career in June and will head to the middle school this coming fall. In my last blog post, we were headed off to 6th Grade Camp. Most of the 6th Grade parents were happy to have 6th Grade camp reinstated after a four year absence. Why did 6th grade camp disappear? Four years ago, one of the 6th grade teachers decided she didn’t want to do 6th grade camp anymore. Some of the 5th grade…

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4 Tips to Help You Get Things Done.

Ordinary Adventures

Here’s a hypothetical story. Has this happened to you?

Ok, your time off has started. May it be your day off or the weekend or even your vacation time, you’re finally free. You’ve been waiting to finally finish that project, or clean up the house, or even just run some errands. But there’s also that TV show you’ve wanted to see… And a nap doesn’t sound that bad… Suddenly, before you know it, it’s Monday again and you realize you haven’t gotten anything done!

I know this has happened to me a ton of times. Even with my own systems in place, I always seem to waste some time doing something I didn’t really want to do, or at least didn’t get something done that I needed to. When this happens I usually feel defeated and frustrated. The thing is, I enjoy getting tasks done, but sometimes it’s hard to buckle…

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The One Buck Labyrinth

Irina Logra

This place is so weird. I would not be surprised to meet a rabbit with a hat, flying on a magic rug offering everyone the choice of two pills: a red one and a blue one . Books are everywhere. They fly out from the shelf to greet guests. They lay on tables, rest on couches, twist whimsically up to the ceiling. An endless labyrinth of shelves sprawls across 20 000 square feet, harboring  innumerable amounts of stories, facts, thoughts and theories. In the heart of downtown Los Angeles the portal to parallel worlds, The Last Bookstore, exists.

The Last Bookstore. Photographer Irina Vasilevitskaya

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The Power of Words

DoubleU = W

if I were able to turn

these words onto their

deadly sharp edge

to cut into flesh

destroying all you know

if I could lay asunder

your every belief

all you hold dear

turning your life

upside down

if I had the ability

using only language

to bring down the

entire system

laying it bare for

everyone to see

if simply speaking

or writing could

bring about destruction

would you hate me

and would I abuse

this new-found power?


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Ego- Time to go.

Words dipped in Happiness

Ego, the trending topic in any relationship, always becomes the reason for a relationship to face inequalities and then indifferences and then they want only one thing, independence from each other.
So where this ego comes from?
It comes from the womb of hatred, that may be on anything, your work, your state of mind, or your partner’s popularity (in some cases). But remember, you can never clap with one hand. So one of them has to try to maintain the relationship by assessing the situations. Keep out the negative thoughts. Never let them come inside the mind. Because it rules over the heart and may destroy love from it. ONLY WHAT YOU EAT WITH YOUR MOUTH, REACHES YOUR STOMACH.

So we have to try to understand the position of our loved ones, try to control their anger, their depression show love to them, don’t let them feel lonely. Always…

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